Pain & Suffering

Giving Our Life to Dead Things

Waiting is the hardest part, sang the late, and pretty stinking great, Tom Petty. I’m feeling that lyric lately. I’m going through some major changes involving some brontosaurus-sized decisions. And, as you know, scientists have proven through complex formulations that change sucks. Even good change can stink up the bathroom. Most of my friends also

Hurt People Hurt People

The causes are a complicated series of emotional and psychological abuse, faulty beliefs about my right to have emotions, and pain avoidance, to name a few. I spent years trying to avoid the reality of pain by numbing myself. Then, (surprise, surprise) I woke up numb, disconnected almost completely most days from my emotions. I

In Touch With Pain

We all have pain. It’s one of the strings that run between us. Tied in an infuriating knot around each of our hearts. So, when we encounter someone else pulling away from the sensory overload of life in pain, it should tug us toward them. But we run from our own pain. We pretend it

Is Suffering Spiritual?

We Christians have an unhealthy relationship with suffering. If suffering itself weren’t awful enough, because of our screwed up ideas about it, our pride is often stabbed in the process. We either can’t imagine that any ill would come to we generally good and gentle folks, or that God would allow us, specifically, to suffer in

What About the Past?

I was talking with a friend today about the past. Not our past together, I mean the past.